Is It Healthy To Stay Friends With Your Ex?

Is it healthy to stay in contact and actually be friends with your ex? I know when I’ve been in relationships that didn’t work out, it was hard to even see my ex in person on a somewhat regular basis. So what do you think? Would you be okay with seeing your ex on the regular and spending time with him or her after a split? Check out these three great ways to determine whether or not it’s healthy for you to stay friends with your ex.


1. Staying Friends – Should You Or Shouldn’t You?

After some thorough research, I discovered that staying friends with your ex and letting go of past hurts can help you to move forward. According to relationship expert Christie Hartman, Ph.D., when you stay friends  with your ex, you are showing maturity and paving the way for a healthier relationship with someone else in the future. Who knew? But be sure to keep in mind that you need to take into account how you two broke up to weigh your decision on whether or not to stay friends with your ex.

2. What Kind Of Break-Up Constitutes It Being Okay To Be Friends With Your Ex?

If you broke up because the romance seemed to fizzle out, you didn’t feel the same way about each other, or you grew apart, then that sets a good basis for a friendship. That makes sense considering that the romantic feelings just aren’t there anymore. If on the other hand you broke off because of some infidelity, frequent fighting, or one partner having a problem with an aspect of the other person’s personality, then the two of you are more likely to have problems staying fiends because the same problems that you had in your romantic relationship will move into your friendship. If one of you is still hung up on the other, then it’s obviously not a good idea to stay friends because one or both of you will feel hurt every time you see the person.

3. What To Do When Becoming Friends

Right after a breakup you need some distance. You need time to grieve the loss of your romantic relationship, otherwise you have a shoddy chance of becoming friends. When you start becoming friends, set boundaries and agree not to talk to each other about relationship advice or doing anything romantic with each other.


Remember to consult your physician or chiropractor before taking any health advice. 

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